Extra Affair, Extra Block to Marriage



Posted: Saturday, December 26, 2009

by Norman Csarni
Build My Marriage

Most problems in marriage are finance, parenting, and extra affairs. Adultery or extra affair is however the most damaging problems in marriage. It does not only destroy marital relationship, but also family.

Extra affair shakes family finances because another person or family shares the family income. Often, family income becomes smaller and family needs are constricted. This shared family income often affects the basic needs of the children like food and school. Immediate effect of extra affair is dishonesty to spouse. Dishonest disclosure of personal income is one of the popular dishonest acts. Extra incomes, work allowances and holiday bonuses are gone. Suddenly, office and business have policies on reduced compensations, as lame excuses. Sometimes, there are new and untraceable personal expenses like new office contributions or financial assistance to parents or siblings.

Adultery cuts time with your spouse and children. Like family income, family time becomes smaller and family togetherness is constricted. Togetherness is the key to marriage. Without or less of it, marriage would most likely fail. Suddenly, there are more works to do in the office and business. Then there are weekend works and emergency meetings. There is lesser weekend visits to amusement parks or movies or family dinners. There are more out-of-town travels. Going home becomes more late and there are more sexless nights with spouse. Intimacy gradually fades out, as spouse invests its emotions to another partner and family.

This problem in marriage breeds more problems in marriage. Adultery builds more blocks to marriage. Adulterous spouse becomes more irritating or silent to avoid more inquiries from spouses. To dispel further suspicions, spouse becomes more dishonest and not open. Communication with the spouse becomes less authentic and open. It takes more love and commitment out of the marital relationship.

When adultery is not dealt instantly, it definitely breaks marriage and family.
 
"Keep your ring and be Always
Happily Married! It is not only easier; it is what you pledged to and
be celebrated" -
Norman  Csarni -  Founder of Build My Marriage
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